Do you feel significant?

In a world where there are critics everywhere and you are literally one in billions, do you struggle with feeling significant? I had no idea that our conversation would turn into a legit therapy session - but it was so cathartic to really dig deep and unpack why I do the things I do. Why do I hustle so hard? Why do I feel like I can never stop? Why do I overcommit and take on role after role? The real reason - I want to feel important. I want to feel significant to the world and people around me. 

Is that a bad thing? I don’t think it is a bad trait- but it is one that can take over your life and lead to bad habits. Habits of saying yes when you should say no. Or allowing a toxic person to take advantage of you. Maybe it manifests itself in the inability to just be present or content. Or maybe your search for significance makes you so concerned about how people perceive you, that you forget your own truth. 

I loved the advice to not let other people’s perceptions alter your decisions. It was genuinely a truth bomb for me. As someone who is concerned with people’s perception of me - it made me reflect on the times I did not heed this advice. There was one moment in the past few years that came to mind. It was a crossroads we came to and I knew the path that I should take. Instead, I was so concerned about how I was perceived, that I altered my decisions based on a lie I told myself and not the TRUTH that I knew. That decision was (to date) the worst decision I have ever made and our business suffered greatly, as well as my confidence in being a boss, and running this company.  

I so wish I could go back in time and have the confidence to make the decision that I knew was right all along. However, since I don’t have a time machine, I can’t go back.  I can’t change the past, but I can reflect, learn, and understand why I made the decision I made so that when another crossroads presents itself - I am taking the one that I know is right. 

I hope you felt encouraged by this episode today to trust yourself, know that you are significant, and to block out all the haters and listen to what you know to be true. 

XOXO,

Dana